Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Well, it's been a year since my daughter Talia was born, and we are appearing together
in a new PSA for APIAVote to encourage people to vote in the upcoming election.
You can watch APIAVote's public service announcement on their YouTube channel at:
and help spread the word by sharing the video with 5 friends and family through
Facebook, Twitter and email.
Talia and I are so honored to be asked to debut together in this important announcement.
Please share it with friends and family. APIAVote asks you, "What do you want?"
When you exercise your right to vote, you're taking a stand for your values, your
family and your community.
Thanks to our partners at Comcast, this PSA started airing nationwide on NBC on
October 24, 2011. It will serve as a great reminder for voters to take action on
Tuesday, November 8, 2011 and cast their ballot for many local elections.
The PSA was co-produced by the Center for Asian American Media and Director/ Producer,
Anson Ho, of Arowana Films production.
"Positive Changes with Panney Wei" Radio show on KCAA 1050 AM, NBC News radio & ITunes
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new to my show, Positive Changes with Panney Wei is focused on entertainment, empowerment,
and enlivening our listeners with a motivational message each and every week to
help people thrive and succeed in love, life, career, and health, and live a life
beyond their wildest dreams! We've got NY Times bestselling authors, experts in
various fields, entertainers, philosophers and more! Show topics for December:
DEC. 3: Gratitude unlocks the Door to Achieving and Getting more
DEC. 10: Top 10 Virtues of a Champion and Achieving your Personal BEst
DEC. 17: Interview with Esther Goodhart, standup comedian and currently featured
in the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery exhibit "Growing Our Circles - Portraiture
Now - Asian American Portraits of Encounter"
DEC. 24: Interview with Sarah Miller Caldicott, Great Grandniece of Thomas Edison,
talking about her book, Inventing the Future, Edison's tools for success and innovation,
and fascinating stories on how Edison would live his life now.
To listen live to "Positive Changes with Panney Wei", every Saturday at 12 midnight
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Whoohoo! I'm branching out to web TV and guest-hosting a new show called Hypnosis Today, the nation's first Web TV talk show featuring various topics on the fascinating world of hypnotherapy. The show will air on hmiwebtv.com and the topics I'll be talking about with my upcoming guests are universal: the fear of success, work-life balance, test-taking or performance anxiety, and chronic pain and life purpose. Look for my episodes of Hypnosis Today which will air very soon onhmiwebtv.com
You'll see me in action doing hypnotherapy for my clients, and covering a wide variety
of subjects to help you understand the power of the subconscious mind and how hypnosis
is being used today to help people achieve success, happiness, and prosperity. You'll
hear from guests about how they have used hypnosis for such areas as quitting smoking,
weight loss, dealing with fears and anxiety, increasing confidence, letting go of
negative habits and much much more...Tune in to check out this new fascinating show!
CONGRATS to my fellow writers & 13 Minutes mag on our book, PHO FOR LIFE: A MELTING
POT OF THOUGHTS! Check out the reviews on Amazon and a clip from my essay, BREAKING
THROUGH TO REAL LOVE:
In junior high, Harry Kim, who was my puppy love crush in eighth grade, wrote in
my yearbook, "Don't ever let anyone change who you are." Wow, wise words from
a thirteen year old that are still applicable today. He could not return my affections
so found a way to share his sentiments in a kind and thoughtful manner. The journey
of love is ultimately about acceptance and love of yourself. In a very simple way,
his words served as a reminder throughout life to persist in becoming the person
I was born to be, love myself for who I am, and be loved exactly as I am as well.
We are all fools in love! From birth to adulthood, love will test us, exhume us,
entangle us, consume us, and enrapture us. The necessity to love and be loved is
a universal and perpetual desire among all human beings on this planet. From the
moment we exit our mother's womb, we are yearning for the feeling of being whole
again, to be a part of something or someone. So our lesson in life is to learn how
to love ourselves, and then to share that love with someone wholly, fully, and completely.
So how do you break the desperation of wanting to be loved or love another so you
can wait for the real deal? Fill your life with a career you love, people who love
and respect you, friends who aren't haters and genuinely want the best for you,
and passions that fulfill your heart and soul and get you up in the morning. Fill
your life with love and passion about who you are, who you're surrounded by, and
what you do, and love will find you! You don't want to be the one of many; you
want to be the one and only in someone's life. Realize you're someone special, and
then go after your dreams and make your life special. Everyone deserves real, long-lasting
love, so by facing the truth and realities of love, and loving yourself, you will
achieve it. Let the reality of love be your happily ever after. Love is the greatest
adventure in life!
Now go for it!
A Melting Pot of Thoughts is a collection of poems and stories reminding us that
- in the end - love conquers all.
Check in my store purchase the book at a reader discount! Thanks for being a part of my journey and celebrating this accomplishment with me!
POSITIVE REVIEWS FOR PHO FOR LIFE:
"What a revelation to discover the resonant and enlightening experiences shared
in this inspirational work! "Pho for Life: A Melting Pot of Thoughts" includes
contributions from a virtual "Who's Who" of prominent and emerging talent in the
fields of literature, the arts, culture, media, education, and entertainment...Asian
Americans who are making their mark in our society and allowing their fresh, authentic
voices to be heard. As an examination into the hearts, thoughts, and state of
"Asian America" today, this anthology should be required reading in higher education
syllabi and in government circles." - Audrey Tejada
"There's something for everyone in this artistically-designed anthology. Whether
you look for heartwarming stories that rekindle your spirit, or tales that reconnect
you with your past so that you may go forward, or you just want to let your mind
intertwined in the words of the writers and let them take you on their life journey,
you'll find what you're searching for here." - MG
I was thinking of the magic of the holidays and how this time of year always seems
to get people in the right frame of mind to love, enjoy life, and be happy. Lots
of people are suffering, lots of people are struggling, but lots of the those same
people are keeping a positive frame of mind and believing that life will get better,
and it will. They keep believing that this too shall pass, and it always does.
I remember when my family first immigrated to the United States. My father was already
working as a doctor in Taiwan and my mother was a fashion designer and teacher,
but both had to start their lives and careers all over when moving to the United
States. Dad had to redo his residency here, another 4 years of schooling, to satisfy
the requirements asked of him of the U.S. medical boards. Can you imagine already
going through 8 years of medical school and residency in Taiwan and having to endure
another four years of residency! You do the math. I was only two when we immigrated
here and my parents always told me life was hard. Residents didn't earn that much
money, perhaps $700 a month at that time in 1970's, and half of that was sent back
to my paternal grandparents to support them. We were a family of four living off
of a salary of $400 a month to pay for food, clothing, and the basic necessities
to survive. It was tough living just on a very meager salary. My memory of that
time was of moments and emotions. I remember that every weekend, our treat for the
week was eating at McDonalds because that's all we could afford. We didn't have
a car, so we had to walk almost a mile every day to get our groceries. My mom would
put my sister Shirley in the stroller, and I would walk by her side, precariously,
all the way to the grocery store. My little three year old legs could barely keep
up while we were walking, and I remembered my mom and I always keeping our heads
down for fear of making eye contact with others, since we were shy, didn't speak
English, and people stared at us since we were minorities in a predominantly white
neighborhood in Missouri. Racism did exist in that part of the world, and we were
foreign people in a foreign country, and looked different than everyone else. It
was especially hard for my dad and mom, not knowing the language well, without
many friends or a community, and raising two kids, while my father was at the hospital
all day and moonlighting at night to make more money to support our family.
But the great thing is, not once did I hear my parents complain about our lives.
They always let us remember how lucky we were, how much we already had, how what
we were experiencing, though difficult, was temporary. And this too, shall pass.
I remember how creative my mother was with activities for me to do. We drew pictures,
an object for every letter of the alphabet, painted, played in the park, and found
very creative ways to entertain ourselves since we didn't have extra money to spend.
Life was simple and very fulfilling in many ways. Times were hard, but we didn't
lose faith. My father and mother never lost faith in themselves, and their dreams
to make a good life for themselves and their family. They followed their dreams
all the way from the East to the West, and never stopped believing. They had a vision
and stuck to it, even being naturalized as U.S. citizens when I turned nine, fulfilling
one of their American dreams as well! No matter what life threw at them, they found
a way to overcome life's challenges, survive, and even thrive.
So no matter what is going on for you this holiday season, just know that everything
will be OK. This too shall pass, and you will find a way to get through the hardship
and break through to real love, happiness, success, and prosperity. Whatever you
desire will become yours if you envision it, believe it, and dream it. Whatever
you can see in your mind and believe, you can achieve! Life is whatever you make
of it and the world is at your fingertips!
Enjoy the magic of this holiday season and from my family to yours, wishing you
much peace, prosperity, power, and prosperity for the New Year, and all the love
and luck you desire in life! I am always here for you!
All the Best in life and love,
Panney Wei, C.Ht.
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
I had an epiphany today. It is, that if I slow down just a little, I will feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, and more happy, more stable, and even more faithful about my future. Why did this epiphany come now? Because I'm a mother and a working mother and I was trying so hard to keep up my usual pace of life, but I realized that it is impossible when you have a baby and no nanny, and still trying to work at the same time.
I was thinking about all the other working moms in the world and thinking "How do they do it?" After talking to other moms, I realized that they all work, but they all have a nanny as well to help out. It is impossible to work and be a well-functioning, present mother as well for your child without extra help or a nanny. Something needs to be sacrificed. The last thing you want to sacrifice is your child's happiness and care.
So I decided to slow down a bit. Slowing down moreso in my mind, than in my actions. By doing that, I was able to be more present for my daughter, feel happier in my heart, and feel like I am really revelling in each moment by moment in my life. Slowing down a little actually increased my faith. I actually know and believe that everything will be done in due time. I will get my first book published. I will find time to write. I will be able to work in my book and get it done because I believe in it so much. And I believe in myself.
Slowing down a little allowed me to catch happy moments with my daughter that I might normally miss. Slowing down allowed me to make sure that each day, I made sure I smiled at my daughter, and was happy to see her, so that she knew how much she was loved. That love will go far in shaping who she is and her self-esteem as a little girl. That love will fill her up and provide a strong foundation for her when she becomes an adult in the world and is on her own.
Sometimes I feel like I should do more. I should work more, work harder, do more, do it longer. Recently, I was named a recipient of the 2011 Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business Award and a nominee for the 2011 Los Angeles Business Journal's Women Making a Difference Award. Amazing I say....I am so honored and humbled by the award and nomination. It only fueled my desire to do more, keep working hard, keep writing, get my self-help book on attracting love published. Truth is, I realized that these awards are just signs from the universe that I'm on the right track. I'm going in the right direction. I should be sharing what I know and whatever wisdom I've acquired along the way to help others, and keep doing that.
So I'm happy for these experiences. I'm happy that I'm being challenged in y life and in the workplace. I'm happy for the challenges being a mom and trying to keep up with my active child and adjusting to parenthood. I'm happy for all of it. And I'm happy that I can keep my eye on the prize and keep the faith even though I've slowed down a bit. Just because i've slowed down doesn't mean I've lost my touch or lost my mojo. My mojo is still there. I've just got to work harder to light the spark in it again. Or best case scenario, the other alternative is to just surrender to God and let things happen.
I think all of us could slow down once in a while. You don't need a child to do that and you don't need a nanny. You just need to be mindful of slowing down once in awhile so you can savor life. Savor all its subtleties and nuances, and don't miss a beat and don't miss a thing. Slow down so you don't regret anything in life. Slow down so you can sift through it all and watch what happens.
Now go do it. Haha! Slow down.......
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
I was up late tonight, 3:30am, and thinking about my day. Not sure why I was up but a nagging feeling kept at me, and I just couldn't sleep. The excitement of my first Mother's Day had just wore off, and I was thinking about my family, my siblings, love, my husband, my daughter, really, a whole flurry of mental activity in the wee hours of the night.
You wonder what was floating in my head? Just the phrase "He left me with the noodles." What's that all about? Well, here's my stream of consciousness....I was thinking about my family, feeling warm and fuzzy, and a nostalgic memory of my sister, Shirley, came into my head. Once upon a time, before I was married, I was dating a guy, let's call Tim (name has been changed to protect the damned and un-innocent) and I was the picture of low self-esteem in this relationship. We had been dating for awhile now, about a year, and I knew at one point, the relationship was going to end. He was getting all the benefits, living at my house most of the time, being practically supported by me, (because I "oh-so" believed in his potential and he was a struggling artist- you know that scenario), and was pretty self-centered or narcissistic. Basically, the dude thought he was a bad-ass and acted like one, and the girls dug it. Anyhow, one week I was deathly ill, so sick that I couldn't get out of the bed. I was hit with flu. This guy and his cheapskate ass, did not even lift a finger to help me. He instead just watched me suffer like a moron, lacking general empathy, or just feigned indifference. I, lifeless and helpless, decided to call my sister for help or at least some moral support. Knowing she was busy (we were always all very busy in my family), we know that when we reach out to each other, it's pretty much an emergency. So when I called, she knew it was important. I told her I was really sick and just wanted to share the news, and she, being a compassionate person, decided to haul her ass 40 minutes to my house to bring me soup and comfort me or at least, hang out for a minute. I hung up the phone much relieved.
Tim, like an idiot, just sits there, psyched because he can't cook and someone is now bringing him food. No, moron, the food is for me. Not you, me. I'm the sick one, and you're just sick and twisted. My sister arrived just in the knick of time before I was going to kick out the boyfriend, and he welcomed her beaming from ear to ear. She wanted to stay longer, but felt like a third wheel, so after half an hour left. I was happy she came and spent all my leftover energy entertaining her and after she left, just crashed. Hours later, waking up hungry, I searched the refrigerator for the soup she brought me. Guess what I found. Just the noodles. The bastard drank all the soup and left me just the noodles! How's that for some tender lovin' care? Without a thought, while I was sleeping, the bastard decided to help himself to a big bowl of soup, soup that was supposed to be mine, all mine!
Guess what I did? I, in my totally empathic and compassionate, needy, and lovesick nature, did not kick him out like most healthy, functional, confident women would do at that time. The fact that he left me just the noodles should've been my huge wake-up call, my ah-ha moment, but no, I kept him around for another four months so that he could just torture me more. How's that for some awesome masochistic behavior? Anyhow, four months later, I woke up when the dude started flirting with other girls in front of me, and I realized that this guy was just delusional, and not worth it. I deserved better. Hiyah! I kicked him to the curb. See ya Tim! You left me the noodles, but I got me some self-esteem. How's that?! Hope you enjoyed the soup while it lasted!
Saturday, April 23, 2011
OK, so here goes. Said colleague from previous post went to psychic. Psychic told colleague some truths and half-truths and no-truths at all. Said colleague jammed home, called me, and reported the news. He spent $200 to talk to someone who just told him what he needed to hear but no concrete information to help him move forward to making some of the 'truth's and good news happen. Psychic also told him that he was a bit unbalanced. What?
"I mean, emotionally. You're not balanced very much emotionally," said the psychic. Well, I could've told my friend himself and spared him the $200 cash. The psychic proceeded with, "Ya know, all you need to do is maybe alter your diet and you'll feel more balanced." What?!
Dude, that is so lame. Totally lame advice. And for a whopping $200!? Now, I'm pissed. Truth is, I do half-agree with the psychic that my colleague here is emotionally unbalanced or bankrupt of perception of reality. But to suggest a more balanced diet is only helping the body. What about the mind? The mind and body are interconnected but the emotional unsteadiness occurs in the mind, not the body in his case. Said psychic was onto something but they're not life-coaches, therapists, counselors, or all of the above, so they don't have the proper credentials to diagnose an imbalance or disorder and offer concrete solutions. If I were her, I'd tell my colleague, what about doing hypnosis, or working with a hypnotherapist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist, or seeking a neurologist or someone who works with the mind and brain and has studied behavioral scientist? To just alter one's diet can only change the body physiologically but the mind is a such a complex organ that stores all of our associations, neuropathways, and behaviors, facts and habits, that to neglect that is absolutely absurd.
I'm floored at this psychic because my colleague is slightly naive and would easily be suggestible to such hoo-haw and nonsense. This psychic was no doctor. Had no credentials to offer a practical solution though I, as a hypnotherapist, could've done a better job than this hoo-haw.
So my very naive colleague has taken this psychic's advice and I have kept my mouth shut for if I don't, I could very well experience the wrath of Thor upon me.
Thus continues the saga of Psychic and Friend. No Sage in this saga and none I can see in the future too. And about my colleague? Well, he's lost 2 pounds since his psychic session, and none the stabler. Go figure.
Monday, April 11, 2011
My friend was beaming because the psychic kind of fed into his dreams, but the problem was, didn't offer any solution for him to really achieve it. Now I'm not being a rotten friend. I do support my friend's dreams but I also know that dreams don't happen over night and they certainly don't happen by sitting on your ass. After this session with the psychic, my friend has done nothing to achieve it, if not little. So what's the problem here? Half-truths being fed to encourage the laziness in all of us, and psychics catering to dreamers who think the universe will deliver them their dream without putting forth any effort towards it. Hello!! Houston, we have a problem! Do you see how a co-dependency cycle gets perpetuated here? Let me illustrate: Psychic tells Dreamer about the Dream; Dreamer indulges in fantasy but little action; Dream doesn't happen; Dreamer wonders why and goes back to psychic; Psychic reassures Dreamer the Dream will happen; (but maybe forgetting to leave out some pertinent information...i.e. the real truth that will set Dreamer free!). Psychic gets paid. Dreamer leaves feeling great but happy feeling only lasts a quick NY minute. Now we're back to square one. You get the picture.
Now I'm not denigrating the psychics who really do a good job and are accurate oracles and those who do a great job of helping people create positive shifts in their lives. There have been prophets throughout oral and written history from the Bible to Madame Blavotsky, or whatever. Maybe there are some who are the real deal.But I am referring to those psychics who waste people's hard earned money telling half-truths when they should be telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth. It peeves me beyond belief when I see people act without integrity, whether it's friend, foe, family, or colleague. Now this isn't the first time my dear friend went to see a psychic. This is one of the many times he has seen this psychic and many others, and this person keeps feeding him the usual B.S., and I'm tired of supporting heis delusion as well! Most of the time, I don't say anything at all when details of the session come up. Why? Though I believe in divine intervention and I believe in the power of intuition and God's miracles, I also believe in myself. I believe that I have the power to move through obstacles, attract opportunities, and achieve my dreams. I believe I can do it with my own volition. I believe I can make my dreams happen and I have the power to chart my destiny. I believe I will be ready when opportunity comes. I also believe that real luck is really preparation meeting opportunity, so when my chance comes, I'll be ready for it, whether it's the new editor, publisher, or TV executive I'll be working with who will take my self-help book to the next level. I will be ready because I worked hard and I earned it. My book would not happen if I just sat in front of my computer every night and no writing was done. My book will only be completed if I work hard spending time nurturing it, writing every day, and writing consistently and with passion. That's the same for all your dreams. I've attended too many seminars where I see people think that they can just dream their dream into being. The key is to dream but also to DO. There's got to be an action plan in place. I don't think anything worth it will ever be accomplished without a little hard work and effort along the way.
In my world, actions speak louder than words. Words are powerful but words can only get you so far. Words can motivate, but you have to do the homework to followup. I make my living being a motivational speaker and what do I provide as a service for the masses? Power, inspiration, motivation, knowledge, hope, belief in oneself. But after you leave my session, the rest is up to you.
So to my fine friend and to all the wonderful dreamers out there, keep on dreaming, but don't forget that the universe needs you to give it direction as well. And the only way it/God/universe knows how to support you is if you give him a nudge in the direction...you've got to set the path and pave the way. This is not a passive world we live in, passively letting things happen to us. Part of its surrendering, but part of it is knowing that you have the power to change your course any time and any which way you like. Psychics can help but they are only part of the journey, part of the truth; the rest is truly up to you.
Now I leave you with one of my favorite songs from Aerosmith, Dream On:
Every time I look in the mirror
All these lines on my face getting clearer
The past is gone
It goes by, like dusk to dawn
Isn't that the way
Everybody's got their dues in life to pay
Yeah, I know nobody knows
where it comes and where it goes
I know it's everybody's sin
You got to lose to know how to win
Half my life
is in books' written pages
Lived and learned from fools and
You know it's true
All the things come back to you
Sing with me, sing for the year
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tears
Sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good lord will take you away
Dream on, Dream on, Dream on.....
Tuesday, February 01, 2011
Happy Chinese New Year! Gong Xi Fa Cai! A brand new year is in store and I'm so excited to see what will come next. Last year was the tumultuous year of the Tiger, a year of great change, so this year, the Year of the Rabbit, will welcome more peace and prosperity and happiness! Thank goodness! For those of you who don't know about Chinese new year, it falls this year on February 3, 2011. Chinese New Year starts with the New Moon on the first day of the new year and ends on the full moon 15 days later. The 15th day of the new year is called the Lantern Festival, which is celebrated at night with lantern displays and children carrying lanterns in a parade. The Chinese calendar is based on a combination of lunar and solar movements. The lunar cycle is about 29.5 days. In order to "catch up" with the solar calendar the Chinese insert an extra month once every few years (seven years out of a 19-yearcycle). This is the same as adding an extra day on leap year. This is why, according to the solar calendar, the Chinese New Year falls on a different date each year. New Year's Eve and New Year's Day are celebrated as a family affair, a time of reunion and thanksgiving. The celebration was traditionally highlighted with a religious ceremony given in honor of Heaven and Earth, the gods of the household and the family ancestors. The sacrifice to the ancestors, the most vital of all the rituals, united the living members with those who had passed away. Departed relatives are remembered with great respect because they were responsible for laying the foundations for the fortune and glory of the family. So Happy Chinese new year! Fun, friends, frolic and food is what this celebration is all about. The spirit underlying the diverse celebrations of the Chinese New Year is a sincere wish of peace and happiness for the family members and friends.
HISTORY OF CHINESE NEW YEAR
The Chinese New Year has a great history. In our past, people lived in an agricultural society and worked all year long. They only took a break after the harvest and before the planting of seeds. This happens to coincide with the beginning of the lunar New Year.
The Chinese New Year is very similar to the Western one, rich in traditions, folklores and rituals. It has been said that it is a combination of the Western Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year. This is hardly an exaggeration! The origin of the Chinese New Year itself is centuries old - in fact, too old to actually be traced. It is popularly recognized as the Spring Festival and celebrations last 15 days. Preparations tend to begin a month before the date of the Chinese New Year (similar to a Western Christmas). During this time people start buying presents, decoration materials,
and clothing. A huge clean-up gets underway days before the New Year, when Chinese houses are cleaned from top to bottom. This ritual is supposed to sweep away all traces of bad luck. Doors and windowpanes are often given a new coat of paint, usually red, then decorated with paper cuts and couplets with themes such as happiness, wealth and longevity printed on them.
The eve of the New Year is perhaps the most exciting part of the holiday, due to the anticipation. Here, traditions and rituals are very carefully observed in everything from food to clothing. Dinner is usually a feast of and dumplings, signifying different good wishes. Delicacies include prawns, for liveliness and happiness, dried oysters ( ho xi), for all things good, fish dishes or Yau-Yu to bring good luck and prosperity, Fai- (Angel Hair), an edible hair-like seaweed to bring prosperity, and dumplings boiled in water (Jiaozi) signifying a long-lasting good wish for a family. It is customary to wear something red as this colour is meant to ward off evil spirits. But black and white are frowned upon, as these are associated with mourning. After dinner, families sit up for the night playing cards, board games or watching television programmes dedicated to the occasion. At midnight, fireworks light up the sky. On the day itself, an ancient custom called Hong Bao, meaning Red Packet, takes place. This involves married couples giving children and unmarried adults money in red envelopes. Then the family begins to say greetings from door to door, first to their relatives and then to their neighbours. Like the Western saying "let bygones be bygones," at Chinese New Year, grudges are very easily cast aside. Tributes are made to ancestors by burning incense and the symbolic offering of foods. As firecrackers burst in the air, evil spirits are scared away by the sound of the explosions. The end of the New Year is marked by the Festival of Lanterns, which is a celebration with singing, dancing and lantern shows.
At the Festival, all traditions are honored. The predominant colors are red and gold. "Good Wish" banners are hung from the ceilings and walls. The "God of Fortune" is there to give Hong Baos. Lion dancers perform on stage continuously. Visitors take home plants and flowers symbolizing good luck. An array of New Years specialty food is available in the . Visitors purchase new clothing, shoes and pottery at the Market Fair. Bargaining for the best deal is commonplace!
Even though the climax of the Chinese New Year, Nian, lasts only two or three days including the New Year's Eve, the New Year season extends from the mid-twelfth month of the previous year to the middle of the first month of the new year. A month from the New Year, it is a good time for business. People will pour out their money to buy presents, decoration material, food and clothing. Transportation department, railroad in particular, is nervously waiting for the onslaught of swarms of travelers who take their days off around the New Year to rush back home for a family reunion from all parts of the country.
The Eve of the New Year is very carefully observed. Supper is a feast, with all members coming together. One of the most popular course is jiaozi, dumplings boiled in water. "Jiaozi" in Chinese literally mean "sleep together and have sons", a long-lost good wish for a family. After dinner, it is time for the whole family to sit up for the night while having fun playing cards or board games or watching TV programs dedicated to the ocassion. Every light is supposed to be kept on the whole night. At midnight, the whole sky will be lit up by fireworks and firecrackers make everywhere seem like a war zone. People's excitement reach its zenith.
Very early the next morning, children greet their parents and receive their presents in terms of cash wrapped up in red paper packages from them. Then, the family start out to say greetings from door to door, first their relatives and then their neighbors. It is a great time for reconciliation. Old grudges are very easily cast away during the greetings. The air is permeated with warmth and friendliness. During and several days following the New Year's day, people are visiting each other, with a great deal of exchange of gifts. The New Year atmosphere is brought to an anti-climax fifteen days away where the Festival of Lanterns sets in. It is an occasion of lantern shows and folk dances everywhere. One typical food is the Tang Yuan, another kind of dumplings made of sweet rice rolled into balls and stuffed with either sweet or spicy fillings.
FORECAST for 2011, YEAR OF THE RABBIT
A placid year, very much welcomed and needed after the ferocious year of the Tiger. We should go off to some quiet spot to lick our wounds and get some rest after all the battles of the previous year.
Good taste and refinement will shine on everything and people will acknowledge that persuasion is better than force. A congenial time in which diplomacy, international relations and politics will be given a front seat again. We will act with discretion and make reasonable concessions without too much difficulty.
A time to watch out that we do not become too indulgent. The influence of the Rabbit tends to spoil those who like too much comfort and thus impair their effectiveness and sense of duty.
Law and order will be lax; rules and regulations will not be rigidly enforced. No one seems very inclined to bother with these unpleasant realities. They are busy enjoying themselves, entertaining others or simply taking it easy. The scene is quiet and calm, even deteriorating to the point of somnolence. We will all have a tendency to put off disagreeable tasks as long as possible
Money can be made without too much labor. Our life style will be languid and leisurely as we allow ourselves the luxuries we have always craved for. A temperate year with unhurried pace. For once, it may seem possible for us to be carefree and happy without too many annoyances.
THE RABBIT PERSONALITY
A person born in the year of the Rabbit possesses one of the most fortunate of the twelve animal signs. The Rabbit, or Hare as he is referred to in Chinese mythology, is the emblem of longevity and is said to derive his essence from the Moon.
The Rabbit symbolizes graciousness, good manners, sound counsel kindness and sensitivity to beauty. His soft speech and graceful and nimble ways embody all the desirable traits of a successful diplomat or seasoned politician.
Likewise, a person born under this sign will lead a tranquil life, enjoying peace, quiet and a congenial environment. He is reserved and artistic and possesses good judgment. His thoroughness will also make him a good scholar. He will shine in the fields of law, politics and government.But he is also inclined to be moody; at such times he appears detached from his environment or indifferent to people.
The Rabbit is extremely lucky in business and monetary transactions. Astute at striking bargains, he can always pop up with a suitable proposal or alternative to benefit himself. His sharp business acumen, coupled with his knack for negotiation, will ensure him a fast rise in any career. The Rabbit usually has impeccable manners. He seldom uses harsh words and will never resort to foul language or vulgarisms to bring home a point. There is little need to anyway, as he has his own techniques. The Rabbit could hide under this cloak of decency to undermine his opponents. His credentials are usually flawless or at least in good order. He will wine and dine you in the best places and cater to your every whim when he is after something. Then, when you have eaten your fill and are puffing away contentedly at that expensive cigar, he will pull out the contract for you to sign. Before you know it, he has cut you off at the knees. He was so deft, you didn't even feel any pain. It was all over with the stroke of a pen. My sympathies are with you, friend. You are just another victim of the incomparable Hare. Now do you understand why Bugs Bunny always gets his carrots in all those cartoon strips?
The well-groomed Rabbit is most compatible with those born in the Sheep year. They will share the same good taste and love of material comforts. Equally well suited will be a relationship with the Dog person or the honest, unimposing Boar native. The Rat, Dragon, Monkey, Ox, Snake and Rabbit will make good secondary matches for him. But he will not be able to tolerate the vanity or criticism of the Rooster, is unimpressed by the dramatics of the Tiger and unappreciative of the quick-tempered and mercurial ways of the Horse.
To sum it up, the Hare simply leaps over obstacles in his path and recovers from calamities with remarkable resilience. No matter how he is tossed, he lands on his feet. He may not be close to his family but will make every effort to provide them with the best of everything. His soft, vulnerable-looking exterior is protected by an armor of cautiousness and sagacity. In life, the Rabbit will avoid being drawn into conflict at any cost, unless, of course, it affects him directly, at which time he will take the appropriate measures to protect his interests.
There is no great inner struggle in the Rabbit's heart between the forces of good and evil. He believes in his own ability to survive, relies on his own judgment and is at peace with himself. His is the sign most apt to find happiness and contentment. Go Rabbits!
Perhaps we should follow the characteristics of the Rabbit for 2011: seek peace, happiness, contentment in life, and hold no grudges. Take things easy and flow into life with the belief that you can and will receive all that you desire as things come easily to the Hare. I wish you all the best this Chinese New Year! May you dance to the tune of happiness and prosperity this Chinese new year! To quote William Arthur Ward:This bright new year is given me To live each day with zest To daily grow and try to be My highest and my best!
Wednesday, June 09, 2010
Life is about taking risks and trying new experiences, and I want to share with you a very exciting venture I'm embarking on....I'm in the running for my own health & well-being talk show for Oprah's OWN TV! My show idea is all about helping people to transform their lives and create positive change from the inside out! It's all about empowering America's people and helping them live their best lives! The top 5 with most votes go to the next round. Please check out my video, vote 4 me, & tell your friends to vote & share this link. You can vote as many times as you want till July 3, post a comment, and even Twitter, or post it on Facebook! Plus, I'm also the only Asian American woman with the highest number of votes for the Health & well-being category and would love to represent our community. Thank you for your support! It's really a dream of mine to work with Oprah Winfrey, and I need your help to make it happen! Every vote counts and you can have a voice! Let's win together! Vote 4 Panney Wei, the only Wei to go! Thank you friends and supporters!
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"Life's demands may not slow up any time soon,and learning life balance is an ongoing art.If you think one day you will get it all done,and then you can relax, you are bound to be disappointed." As we move up the success ladder of life, we may sometimes find ourselves full of more responsiblity and not enough time for ourselves. Like any addiction, if we consume ourselves even with work, it can bound to reap negative effects on our well-being especially if we don't take time to strike a balance and do something other than work that brings us fulfillment as well. Some of you may be lucky that you're doing what you love, so each day is pretty much a blessed day because you're serving your life purpose and doing something you enjoy. But even you need a little break sometimes to recharge your batteries so you can return to your job with more vigor, creativity and even new ideas! That's why creating better work-life balance is always a good thing in the long run. You will get to enjoy all the rewards your hard work has been able to provide for you! Let's first define what work-life balance is not.
"Life's demands may not slow up any time soon,and learning life balance is an ongoing art.If you think one day you will get it all done,and then you can relax, you are bound to be disappointed."
As we move up the success ladder of life, we may sometimes find ourselves full of more responsiblity and not enough time for ourselves. Like any addiction, if we consume ourselves even with work, it can bound to reap negative effects on our well-being especially if we don't take time to strike a balance and do something other than work that brings us fulfillment as well. Some of you may be lucky that you're doing what you love, so each day is pretty much a blessed day because you're serving your life purpose and doing something you enjoy. But even you need a little break sometimes to recharge your batteries so you can return to your job with more vigor, creativity and even new ideas!
That's why creating better work-life balance is always a good thing in the long run. You will get to enjoy all the rewards your hard work has been able to provide for you! Let's first define what work-life balance is not.
Work-Life Balance does not mean an equal balance. Trying to schedule an equal number of hours for each of your various work and personal activities is usually unrewarding and unrealistic. Life is and should be more fluid than that.
Your best individual work-life balance will vary over time, often on a daily basis. The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The right balance for you when you are single will be different when you marry, or if you have children; when you start a new career versus when you are nearing retirement.
There is no perfect, one-size fits all, balance you should be striving for. The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives.
However, at the core of an effective work-life balance definition are two key everyday concepts that are relevant to each of us. They are daily Achievement and Enjoyment, ideas almost deceptive in their simplicity.
Engraining a fuller meaning of these two concepts takes us most of the way to defining a positive Work-Life Balance. Achievement and Enjoyment answer the big question "Why?" Why do you want a better income...a new house...the kids through college...to do a good job today...to come to work at all?
Most of us already have a good grasp on the meaning of Achievement. But let's explore the concept of Enjoyment a little more. As part of a relevant Work-Life Balance definition, enjoyment does not just mean "Ha-Ha" happiness. It means Pride, Satisfaction, Happiness, Celebration, Love, A Sense of Well Being ...all the Joys of Living.
Achievement and Enjoyment are the front and back of the coin of value in life. You can't have one without the other, no more than you can have a coin with only one side. Trying to live a one sided life is why so many "Successful" people are not happy, or not nearly as happy as they should be. You cannot get the full value from life without BOTH Achievement and Enjoyment. Focusing on Achievement and Enjoyment every day in life helps you avoid the "As Soon As Trap", the life dulling habit of planning on getting around to the joys of life and accomplishment "as soon as...."
"You know, I just want to achieve something today and I want to enjoy something today. And if I do both of those things today, I'm going to have a pretty good day. And if I do both of those things every day, for the rest of my life... I'm going to have a pretty good life."
And I think that's true for all of us. Life will deliver the value and balance we desire ...when we are achieving and enjoying something every single day...in all the important areas that make up our lives. As a result, a good working definition of Work-Life Balance is:
Meaningful daily Achievement and Enjoyment in each of my four life areas of most people's concern: Work, Family, Friends and Self.
Ask yourself now, when was the last time you Achieved AND Enjoyed something at work? What about Achieved AND Enjoyed with your family; your friends? And how recently have you Achieved AND Enjoyed something just for you?
Why not take 20 minutes on the way home from work and do something just for yourself? And when you get home, before you walk in the door, think about whether you want to focus on achieving or enjoying at home tonight. Then act accordingly when you do walk in the door.
At work you can create your own best Work-Life Balance by making sure you not only Achieve, but also reflect the joy of the job, and the joy of life, every day. If nobody pats you on the back today, pat yourself on the back. And help others to do the same.When you do, when you are a person that not only gets things done, but also enjoys the doing, it attracts people to you. They want you on their team and they want to be on your team.
Simple concepts. And once you focus on them as key components of your day, they are not that hard to implement. So, make it happen, for yourself, your family and all the important individuals you care about...every day for the rest of your life... Achieve and Enjoy every day of your life!
This has been a surprising and amazing year so far! I'm honored to be recognized by 3 great organizations this year for the work I'm doing in the Arts/Self-help fields to empower people to live more fulfilling lives, break through obstacles, and achieve balance and success in their personal and professional lives. I've been recognized as:
- 2010 Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business by the Asian American Business Development Center
- Designated "100 Passionate People" by the Taiwanese Project.org
- Honoree in Arts & Literature for the Asian Heritage Awards by the Asian Heritage Society
The summer is finally here and thank goodness! Gone are the days of rain, gloom, and cold, and now are the days of fun, sun, and warmth! With the great weather, comes a fantastic opportunity to give thanks and gratitude to those in our lives we appreciate and the blessings we've received during the year. I know for some of you who are listeners of my radio show "Positive Changes with Panney Wei" on KCAA 1050 AM, you feel that sometimes you attract difficult situations or this year has been particularly hard-hitting for some of you. I understand the struggle but try to keep a positive frame of mind. Despite what's happening in your life now, there's still so much to be grateful for. There are always ups and downs in life. That's just life! Life is full of challenges, but if you don't really let it get to you, you'll always come out on top. Because it's your attitude that determines your character when facing obstacles, and it'll be more in your favor if you can see yourself as a champion, a champion in your life that can surmount any obstacle rather than just a passerby or passenger sitting passively on the bus just going along for the ride. Be the driver, take charge of your life, and create the change necessary to get you back on your feet again so as we approach the halfway mark for the year, you're still roaring and ready to go! I believe that you can! Every time I've faced challenges, I've always forged through with the power of optimism, staying grounded, and learning from the experience. It's about finding the silver lining in everything. In the Chinese culture, in the actual word or character for adversity is also the word, opportunity. So let's look at every challenge and adversity as an opportunity to grow, expand, and reach our potential. We're all here to evolve and become better people, so adversity adn challenges are really opportunities for growth! In the meantime, this summer, let's focus on the simple things that are important in life, the things we already have and be grateful for them. Take a load off and enjoy the sun, summer, and fun, and relieve your stress by going outdoors or doing something funl!
My summer has started with a bang! I'm expecting a baby girl in late June and we're counting the days now as we cross the finish line. That's my happiest and biggest news this year even though there's been so much good news to share! I've been recognized by three 3 stellar organizations for my work as a life-coach-motivational speaker-author and TV-Radio host and empowering and transforming our community. I'm also in competition for my own show on Oprah's OWN TV and need your votes to advance to the next round! On my radio show "Positive Changes with Panney Wei" on KCAA 1050 and podcasting at Itunes, we had a great lineup of shows in April and May to keep you motivated, empowered, and taking your life to the next level!
In the meantime, have a fantastic start to the summer! Here's a fantastic summer quote to set the tone: "Beach sand, perfect tans. Day walks, night talks. Sleepless nights, pillow fights. & spending every day with those who matter most." To sign up for my free newsletter, email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Panney Wei, C.Ht.